Phrases and sentences parents should not speak in front of children
Parents should avoid comparing siblings, belittling their children's abilities, or labeling them as accidents. Negative phrases like expressing disbelief, blaming, or discouraging independence can harm the parent-child relationship and hinder a child's emotional well-being. Encouraging open communication, promoting self-expression, and understanding the root cause of behavior are essential for fostering a healthy parent-child dynamic.
Never compare your child with their siblings. Sibling rivalry is very common in families and parents actively promote it when they start comparing them. it also makes the child feel that they are not good enough.
●Don’t be a baby!Maturity comes with experience, not by telling your child to act maturely every time. this can take children’s innocence at a very young age.
●Why can’t you do anything right?It sounds like a question but it is more like accusing the child. There is no positive response from the child. They feel ashamed and they feel that cannot do anything right.
●You are an accident!Sometimes kids are not planned, but calling them an accident is not good. They feel humiliated and unwanted. It harms their self-worth. It can leave a long-lasting scar on the emotional well-being of the child. Even correcting it by saying ‘We love you anyway’ will not help.
●I don’t believe you!If parents want that their children should feel comfortable and open up about any issues to them, they first have to build that relationship. If they say that they do not believe their kids, they lose their confidence. Kids will not share their viewpoints or explain anything to their parents because they know that their parents do not trust and believe them.
●I wouldn’t do that if I were you!Make your child think again about his/her choices. It makes them feel that you doubt and do not trust their choices. This brings a gap between parents and children also children are afraid to make choices on their own. They do not feel confident about themselves when it comes to decision-making.
●You make me so mad!As parents, it is important to stay calm and resist anger. It is not good to blame your kids. Instead of scolding your child, have a healthy conversation. Tell them that you did not like this behavior of them and explain why it is not good. This will help them to understand the parent's point of view without getting embarrassed or without feeling humiliated.
●That’s not how you do it, let me show it to you!Kids need to learn how to carry out things on things on their own. As parents, it is important to guide them but always helping them will not allow them to grow. Kids should learn on their own from their mistakes. As parents support them and guide them but also allow them to do things on their own.
●I do everything for you!It is important to teach that one should not be selfish and if you do anything for others it should be selfless that is you should not expect anything in return. If parents talk like this with their children, then they learn that everything their parents do for them has a certain motive.
●Don’t eat that or you’ll get fat!Children already feel very conscious about their looks. Telling them that eating something will make them look fat or commenting on their weight is not good. They become more conscious about themselves.
●Stop crying!Parents should allow their children to cry. They should learn how to express their feelings and emotions. If you do not allow the child to express their sad feelings, they will not share their happy thoughts as well. It is important for children to know that it is okay to feel happy, sad, or angry.
●You are so lazy!It is another way of lowering a child’s self-esteem and self-worth. Other than saying ‘You are lazy’, parents should try to understand the root cause that why the kid is not able to accomplish what’s being asked.
